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I’ve Got Nothing Against Wedding Ceremony Glitz, But . . .
Whenever I search for a wedding blog, I unearth scads of articles about, and photos of, luscious wedding cakes, beautiful (and sometimes bizarre) dresses, and shoes that cost more than my mortgage payment (some of which look so painful–like my mortgage payment!).
Because I’m a guy, happily married to a lovely woman named Cathie, all of this has some–albeit limited–appeal. I’m not a wedding party-pooper. I like a great reception as much as the next person.
But maybe we can leave some of the glitz–some of the chat about table settings, bridal bouquets, and groomsman’s gifts–to the experts, to those who LOVE that sort of thing.
Here, I’d like to talk about the other side of your wedding–the side that deals with things that matter long after the reception chicken has been eaten and the band has packed up and moved on (even after your parents or you have finally paid off the bill!).
I’m talking about the words that are spoken and the meaning behind those words. I’m talking about the symbols and gestures why we do them.
Why my interest? Well, I’ve been a wedding officiant for almost 20 years, and I’ve been based in beautiful Charleston, South Carolina for the past 2 years. Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of helping hundreds and hundreds of happy couples reach their dream of getting married. I’ve also done HUGE amounts of premarital counseling.
Even so, I have a lot to learn because people are never dull. They’re unique and fascinating. (That’s why people-watching is so much fun.) Everyone has a story, an interesting story. You have a story about where you came from, what you like and dislike, what you value and what you don’t. What you think about when you think about getting married, no matter who you are: a long-time married couple, someone who’s engaged–or wants to be, a hopeful bride or groom, or the family and friends of someone planning a wedding ceremony.
I don’t claim to have all the answers. But I do have some thoughts. I’ll offer mine and I hope you’ll offer yours.
Here we go . . .
Dr. D. Wayne Bogue
p.s. If you want to know a little more about me, go to my website: http://www.lowcountryweddingceremony.com
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